What to Do If Your Husband Cheats on You
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
, Posted by Yvhes P. at 2:08 AM
In any normal marriage there will always be problems and misunderstandings, not unless you live in a perfect world.
In marriage, expect that during the first few months or stages of being
together everything is going to be smooth sailing.
This is the stage where happiness, excitement and thrills is endless. It’s like you live in fantasy and that the world only revolves between the two of you. As if there is no tomorrow so you will cuddle, laugh and joke around every second, every minute and every day. But you will notice sudden changes as months and years passes by. You can’t avoid sudden changes in a relationship especially if you have been living together for some time already.
There will be small fights and misunderstandings that could have caused by some petty things. And ofcourse in some instances jealousy on either or both parties will arise. How will you deal with jealousy if unintentionally it leads to doubt. In some cases, doubt within marriage results to separation when disregarded.
Most of the time, whenever a guy cheats to his wife he won’t admit it until his last breath. As if there is a general rule in men that if you cheat never ever admit to your partner or else you’ll be considered a rule breaker of Men’s Code of Ethics. No offense to the few loyal and honest men out there. It is just my opinion anyway based on my personal observation.
For married women what will you do if you have doubts of your husbands loyalty? How will you handle the situation. You’re instinct as a wife tells you that your partner is cheating on you. What if there was an instance when you saw another woman’s photo in his wallet. He would come home really late at night or sometimes won’t come home at all. He won’t text or call you the whole day to tell you his whereabouts. Whenever you want to start a conversation with him about your true feelings and doubts he would instantly shout and get really mad at you. He would accuse you of making up stories and destroying the family. He would do anything and everything to avoid such topic. He would turn things around effortlessly until you end up in the bad end of the relationship. Guys are really good at this.
If you are in this kind of situation I would advise that you assess yourself. Are you the type who can just ignore such feelings and move on with life as if nothing is bothering you just to protect the relationship and the family? Or are you the kind of woman who is more aggressive of their real feelings. The type who dwells and won’t stop until your partner admits. Whether he will admit it or not you don’t care as long as you show him that you are fully aware of his wrongdoings. Oh well, if you are the naive type then just go on with your life and live each day in blindness ha ha ha.
On the other hand, if you are the aggressive type then fight for what you think and believe is right. Do what your mind and heart is telling you to do. If it’s the only way to release the emotions and get rid of the physical, mental and emotional burden caused by him. Tell him everything you want him to know. Show him how disappointed you are with what he did. Let him realize his mistakes and ask him to promise you he won’t make the same mistakes again. In this way you will feel relieved.
Whether the husband confesses or not at least you made him fully aware that you don’t trust him 100%. That you have doubts in him but still you are willing to make the relationship work since you love him and doesn’t want to ruin the family. You are still being fair as a wife by giving him another chance to prove himself to you as a husband but at the same time you are giving him the signal that you are not a martyr wife and that your eyes are wide open. If he will cheat on you for the second time, then assess your feelings towards him and decide if you are still willing to give him second chance.
But if despite giving him another chance he still cheats on you again and again then it’s a sign that you have to let him go. The guy doesn’t respect you as his wife and maybe he doesn’t love you anymore that is why he wants to be with another woman.
This is the stage where happiness, excitement and thrills is endless. It’s like you live in fantasy and that the world only revolves between the two of you. As if there is no tomorrow so you will cuddle, laugh and joke around every second, every minute and every day. But you will notice sudden changes as months and years passes by. You can’t avoid sudden changes in a relationship especially if you have been living together for some time already.
There will be small fights and misunderstandings that could have caused by some petty things. And ofcourse in some instances jealousy on either or both parties will arise. How will you deal with jealousy if unintentionally it leads to doubt. In some cases, doubt within marriage results to separation when disregarded.
Most of the time, whenever a guy cheats to his wife he won’t admit it until his last breath. As if there is a general rule in men that if you cheat never ever admit to your partner or else you’ll be considered a rule breaker of Men’s Code of Ethics. No offense to the few loyal and honest men out there. It is just my opinion anyway based on my personal observation.
For married women what will you do if you have doubts of your husbands loyalty? How will you handle the situation. You’re instinct as a wife tells you that your partner is cheating on you. What if there was an instance when you saw another woman’s photo in his wallet. He would come home really late at night or sometimes won’t come home at all. He won’t text or call you the whole day to tell you his whereabouts. Whenever you want to start a conversation with him about your true feelings and doubts he would instantly shout and get really mad at you. He would accuse you of making up stories and destroying the family. He would do anything and everything to avoid such topic. He would turn things around effortlessly until you end up in the bad end of the relationship. Guys are really good at this.
If you are in this kind of situation I would advise that you assess yourself. Are you the type who can just ignore such feelings and move on with life as if nothing is bothering you just to protect the relationship and the family? Or are you the kind of woman who is more aggressive of their real feelings. The type who dwells and won’t stop until your partner admits. Whether he will admit it or not you don’t care as long as you show him that you are fully aware of his wrongdoings. Oh well, if you are the naive type then just go on with your life and live each day in blindness ha ha ha.
On the other hand, if you are the aggressive type then fight for what you think and believe is right. Do what your mind and heart is telling you to do. If it’s the only way to release the emotions and get rid of the physical, mental and emotional burden caused by him. Tell him everything you want him to know. Show him how disappointed you are with what he did. Let him realize his mistakes and ask him to promise you he won’t make the same mistakes again. In this way you will feel relieved.
Whether the husband confesses or not at least you made him fully aware that you don’t trust him 100%. That you have doubts in him but still you are willing to make the relationship work since you love him and doesn’t want to ruin the family. You are still being fair as a wife by giving him another chance to prove himself to you as a husband but at the same time you are giving him the signal that you are not a martyr wife and that your eyes are wide open. If he will cheat on you for the second time, then assess your feelings towards him and decide if you are still willing to give him second chance.
But if despite giving him another chance he still cheats on you again and again then it’s a sign that you have to let him go. The guy doesn’t respect you as his wife and maybe he doesn’t love you anymore that is why he wants to be with another woman.
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